Feeling Fake

For my scant readers out there (okay my two readers), you probably notice the long gap between postings here. Instead of slapping you with excuses, I did some self-reflection and realized it’s because I was feeling phony.

My Chakra Mom blog sprang from the hilarious and wildly successful blog,“This Fish Needs a Bicycle.” I wanted to take that same lighthearted, comic approach to life that single woman seem to have monopolized and prove that we moms also live funny, interesting, and entertaining lives. Yet since my first couple of posts, I haven’t felt very witty or funny and couldn’t sustain the voice I had expressed. It would have felt fake. So instead of writing from heart, I stopped writing.

Have you ever felt fake?

Whether you’re a soccer mom, single mom, yoga mama, hip mama, geek mom, hot mom, career moms etc..., you have a unique voice and unique way you express yourself and your life.

But do you ever wonder who your authentic self is?

Moms have many roles, but only one true self. In the myriad of roles we play, we have to dress the part, speak the right dialogue, and act accordingly. And we often have to shift in and out of those roles daily. Imagine yourself in the following situations. What are you wearing? How do you speak?

• You’re volunteering at the elementary school’s annual holiday gift store
• It’s Mom’s Night Out – Margarita Night – with your closest girlfriends
• You’re at the head of a conference table, giving a one-hour Power Point presentation to a group of business exec. – potential clients
• A church/spiritual group gathering
• Parent/Teacher conference
• Finally! A romantic weekend getaway to Napa Valley with your spouse / significant other

If you have even a shred of social skills, you can easily see how you would present yourself differently in each of these situations. Yet which “you” is the real “you?” All of them. Does that mean you’re a schizo? a phony? a hypocrite?

No. It means you’re a complex creature with multiple facets of your personality. You appropriately decide which component of yourself to highlight as the situation calls.

They are all true – all authentic.

So my goal with this blog is to stay true to my authentic voice -- sometimes witty, sometimes reflective, sometimes sappy, sometimes silly -- but always genuine.